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There is a completely confidential survey for Parents that are Estranged from their Adult Children and there is a a survey for Adult Children. I urge all of you to take the time to answer honestly! If there are ever going to be answers or help for this issue.. we need everyone's participation! Thank you in advance for your time!
UPDATE
I am also interested in the family patterns of estrangement. I have created a very short set of questions. Even if you have previously taken the main survey, I would appreciate your additional contribution to further our understanding of this issue. Please see the link below.
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Videos
Books
Connecting With Our Children : Guiding Principles for Parents in a Troubled World
The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement
Too Much of a Good Thing: Raising Children of Character in an Indulgent Age
Healing From Family Rifts : Ten Steps to Finding Peace After Being Cut Off From a Family Member
When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along
I Thought We'd Never Speak Again: The Road from Estrangement to Reconciliation
Family Estrangements: How They Begin, How to Mend Them, How to Cope with Them
Letting Go of Our Adult Children: When What We Do Is Never Enough
FRAGMENTED FAMILIES: Patterns of Estrangement and Reconciliation
Walking on Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents, by Jane Isay
For Mothers of Difficult Daughters; How to Enrich and Repair the Relationship in Adulthood, by Charney Herst
When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life, by Victoria Secunda
I'm OK, You're My Parents : How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works, by Dale Atkins
Making Peace with Your Parents, by Harold Bloomfield MD
Making Peace With Your Adult Children: A Guide to Family Healing, by Shauna Smith
Forgive Your Parents, Heal Yourself: How Understanding Your Painful Family Legacy Can Transform Your Life
Everything Has Two Handles: The Stoic's Guide to the Art of Living
Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives
Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking About Human Interactions
Articles and Links
How to be a Grown Up Even Around Your Own Parents
By Dr Frank Pittman
The Feuds Tearing Our Families Apart
Therapists Find Last Outpost of Adolescence in Adulthood, NY Times, 1988
Have We Become a Nation of Narcissists? by Dr Ron Pies, MD
College students think they're so special
Study finds alarming rise in narcissism, self-centeredness in ‘Generation Me’
OverIndulging our Kids is a Hazard, Not a Gift
Take the Narcissistic Personality Inventory
Me, me, me! America’s ‘Narcissism Epidemic’
Authors say long-term consequences are destructive to society
The Price of Affluence
New research shows that privileged teens may be more self-centered—and depressed—than ever before. By Amy Novotney
The High Cost of Avoiding Difficult Conversations
Lost Graces: Duty Rev. Susan L. Van Dreser “We need to restore the full meaning of that old word. It is the other side of rights.”
~Pearl S. Buck
Many boomers may face old age alone
By: Karen S. Peterson
Why are families growing apart?
Excerpted from Family Estrangements: How They Begin, How to Mend Them, How to Cope with Them By Barbara LeBey
Grow up, twenty-somethings. You can go home again
"I Haven't Spoken to My Parents In 8 Years" NYTimes Article by Lawrence Kutner
BOWEN THEORY
Treat your children, and your parents well USA Today
Therapists Find Last Outpost Of Adolescence In Adulthood
Latest Activity
Cass replied to Ann's discussion This is what my DIL posts on her FB. What do you think?"My sons father told me when my son was 8 years old and right after my new daughter was born back in…"
Cass replied to Mary Kelly's discussion I am tired of being blamed...."Wow...I fear my son as well..
Your post really shows the impact thes adult children can do to our…"
Cass replied to Susie's discussion Consequences for their actions and wills"Nice words Britta..
I was booted out of my grandmothers Will after I took my daughter & left…"
Cass commented on hb's blog post No Title"HB... I can feel your confusin because it is mine as well..It's like who said what to who when…"
britta replied to Susie's discussion Consequences for their actions and wills"I know of two, in real life, situations in which an estranged child returned after a…"
Nan Roy replied to Mary Kelly's discussion I am tired of being blamed...."Our kids are adults...many of the generation aged 25-35+/- are the most narcissistic humans to ever…"
A. J. replied to Ann's discussion This is what my DIL posts on her FB. What do you think?"Britta, yes I can imagine it would fall on deaf ears, most people don't want to hear the…"
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Consequences for their actions and wills 18 Replies
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I see no answers on the Parents of Estranged Children 29 Replies
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HOW WHAT WE SAY AFFECTS OTHERS HERE 9 Replies
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Blog Posts
My aunt wnt to see my ES son and granddaughter yesterday.He said he and his wife were thinking about letting me see our GD but his dad. my aunt said it to soon and that we still need time. I am…
My aunt wnt to see my ES son and granddaughter yesterday.He said he and his wife were thinking about letting me see our GD but his dad. my aunt said it to soon and that we still need time. I am surprised that they are even thinking about this. I so desperately want to see her but I cannot go back to playing thegames and jumping thur hoops to do everything I can so they would allow us to see her.we keep going thur these episodes where my DIL will allow one of us but not the other for one reason… Continue
Posted by hb on May 28, 2012 at 7:32pm — 2 Comments
Trying to do a good deed
Today I went into the attic and pulled out Skylar's baby clothes. I decided to give them to a coworker whose wife is expcecting a girl and due the end of July. I felt that this would be a good thng to do and help a young couple. When I started sorting the clothes to wash, I felt such an overwhelming, crushing wave of sadness...the tears would not stop. I miss my "Munchkin" so much.
Posted by Cheryl S. on May 28, 2012 at 11:32am — 3 Comments
Is It Just Me? or Do Reading these blogs make you cry?
To Julie Martinez
Julie, I don't think it is that we were such "bad" mothers, but rather that our children were going thru a time when they were very much influenced by Media (TV). I remember after WWII that the advertisements on TV showed how stupid(?)men were. Why, a husband couldn't even put clothes in a wash machine or use the right soap! The TV ads had all kinds of put-downs about men and how inefficient they were. This was in the 60s. Then, came the 70s, and that's when I…
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Another holiday...
Well, I know Memorial Day is more about remembering the soldiers that gave us the freedom to even BE in this group and believe me, I do honor them as I am married to a retired Chief who served for 24 year in the Navy. However, Memorial Day for me is also now a day that I remember that my son is gone, angry because I loved him and cared enough to set boundaries. …
ContinuePosted by Sue P on May 25, 2012 at 11:49am — 3 Comments
IS IT JUST ME? OR DO READING THESE BLOGS MAKE YOU CRY?
I have been extremely lucky to have heard of this site through AARP and I Posted two blogs. The last being "My daughter is finally reaching out" But I jumped the gun and she never did. I felt so embarrassed and hurt at having been set up for a reconcilliation. I've tried to read blogs from others but it just makes me more depressed that any of us are going through this. Where did we all go wrong? Were'nt we supposed to give our children a better life than we had and they were supposed to be…
ContinuePosted by Julie Martinez on May 21, 2012 at 6:24pm — 11 Comments
Notes
Quotes To Remember
"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending."
"The better you feel, the better chance you have of a life without her and actually the better chance you have of a life with her."
"Whether you think you can or think you can't, either way you are right" - Henry Ford
Even if you're on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there. - Will… Continue
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Mission Statement
This site does not condone rudeness to anyone.
You may or may not agree, but I am interesting in promoting support, understanding of our situations, and hopefully this will help some heal. I realize that some need more time than others to progress, but with so many people on the site, in order to be effective, I believe that the best use of this site .... recognizing the selflessness of those who are willing to spend the time to read and respond... that the following is appropriate… Continue
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