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A place for people experiencing estrangement or cut off from their family to find support, hopefully peace, and some understanding.
SURVEYS
There is a completely confidential survey for Parents that are Estranged from their Adult Children and there is a a survey for Adult Children. I urge all of you to take the time to answer honestly! If there are ever going to be answers or help for this issue.. we need everyone's participation! Thank you in advance for your time!
UPDATE
I am also interested in the family patterns of estrangement. I have created a very short set of questions. Even if you have previously taken the main survey, I would appreciate your additional contribution to further our understanding of this issue. Please see the link below.
Take the Parents Estranged from Adult Children survey now.
Take the Adult Children Estranged from Parents survey now.
Take the Family Patterns Survey now
Survey results as of 02/10/2012
Parents Estranged From Adult Children Survey Summary Report 2-2012
Connecting With Our Children : Guiding Principles for Parents in a Troubled World
The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement
Too Much of a Good Thing: Raising Children of Character in an Indulgent Age
Healing From Family Rifts : Ten Steps to Finding Peace After Being Cut Off From a Family Member
When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along
I Thought We'd Never Speak Again: The Road from Estrangement to Reconciliation
Family Estrangements: How They Begin, How to Mend Them, How to Cope with Them
Letting Go of Our Adult Children: When What We Do Is Never Enough
FRAGMENTED FAMILIES: Patterns of Estrangement and Reconciliation
Walking on Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents, by Jane Isay
For Mothers of Difficult Daughters; How to Enrich and Repair the Relationship in Adulthood, by Charney Herst
When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life, by Victoria Secunda
I'm OK, You're My Parents : How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works, by Dale Atkins
Making Peace with Your Parents, by Harold Bloomfield MD
Making Peace With Your Adult Children: A Guide to Family Healing, by Shauna Smith
Forgive Your Parents, Heal Yourself: How Understanding Your Painful Family Legacy Can Transform Your Life
Everything Has Two Handles: The Stoic's Guide to the Art of Living
Triangles: Bowen Family Systems Theory Perspectives
Extraordinary Relationships: A New Way of Thinking About Human Interactions
How to be a Grown Up Even Around Your Own Parents
By Dr Frank Pittman
The Feuds Tearing Our Families Apart
Therapists Find Last Outpost of Adolescence in Adulthood, NY Times, 1988
Have We Become a Nation of Narcissists? by Dr Ron Pies, MD
College students think they're so special
Study finds alarming rise in narcissism, self-centeredness in ‘Generation Me’
OverIndulging our Kids is a Hazard, Not a Gift
Take the Narcissistic Personality Inventory
Me, me, me! America’s ‘Narcissism Epidemic’
Authors say long-term consequences are destructive to society
The Price of Affluence
New research shows that privileged teens may be more self-centered—and depressed—than ever before. By Amy Novotney
The High Cost of Avoiding Difficult Conversations
Lost Graces: Duty Rev. Susan L. Van Dreser “We need to restore the full meaning of that old word. It is the other side of rights.”
~Pearl S. Buck
Many boomers may face old age alone
By: Karen S. Peterson
Why are families growing apart?
Excerpted from Family Estrangements: How They Begin, How to Mend Them, How to Cope with Them By Barbara LeBey
Grow up, twenty-somethings. You can go home again
"I Haven't Spoken to My Parents In 8 Years" NYTimes Article by Lawrence Kutner
BOWEN THEORY
Treat your children, and your parents well USA Today
Therapists Find Last Outpost Of Adolescence In Adulthood
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I am really interested in knowing how people reconcile with DIL, our son seems to want relationship but is unable to and I guess, still appear to be supportive of her. I have tried many types of contact over the last couple years, she has never expressed to us why she is angry, son can seem to come up with concrete answer, either, it is almost like We are just simply not welcome. It is causing a big rift and is affecting everyone but her.
Posted by Janet Presser on February 16, 2012 at 4:20am — 7 Comments
I'm up with a squiggly little baby.
I'll tell you the truth, as much as I love this little guy I'm terrified. My husband is irritated that I continue to blame myself...but whether it was my fault or not, somehow I lost two of my adult children. Something went wrong somewhere and I either caused it or was unable to stop it. How did I go from cradling them to this? And how can I avoid it? And why can't I stop it with the two I have? Neither will tell me what is wrong, both punch…
ContinuePosted by britta on February 8, 2012 at 2:33am — 2 Comments
when i gather my thoughts, i will write all about it. for now, let me just say, NEVER, EVER, EVER give up hope!
Posted by nina on January 26, 2012 at 10:35am — 6 Comments
for welcoming me back it truly makes it feel good I have been so down but I know that is not healthy. I can see and tell there are some very good hearted people that have wound up in the same situation as me. While I have no clue why my son quit talking to me the time has reached an insane amount now at almost 6 years.Going forward I try to remain positive and I wish you all peace and I hope that better days are in store for all of us that suffer this heartbreaking pain. Here's to a good…
ContinuePosted by Susan Stephens on January 6, 2012 at 4:59pm — 3 Comments
Here I am back after a long time away. My situation hasn't changed with my ES. I guess I try to not think about it and I know the site can be helpful. Reality is, it has been 6 years in March, since my son spoke to me. His life has gone on and they had a baby boy who will be 1 this month. I have seen pictures but never have seen him. I am beginning to think that things will never change, as I have hoped and prayed and they remain the…
ContinuePosted by Susan Stephens on January 4, 2012 at 12:00am — 6 Comments
"Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending."
"The better you feel, the better chance you have of a life without her and actually the better chance you have of a life with her."
"Whether you think you can or think you can't, either way you are right" - Henry Ford
Even if you're on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there. - Will… Continue
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This site does not condone rudeness to anyone.
You may or may not agree, but I am interesting in promoting support, understanding of our situations, and hopefully this will help some heal. I realize that some need more time than others to progress, but with so many people on the site, in order to be effective, I believe that the best use of this site .... recognizing the selflessness of those who are willing to spend the time to read and respond... that the following is appropriate… Continue
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